Comfort care for home life during severe pregnancy sickness
Severe pregnancy sickness can disrupt the routines that hold a family together—and raise everyone’s stress. This proposed in-home support service helps preserve the flow and rhythm of home life when relentless nausea, vomiting, exhaustion, and food or smell triggers make everyday work impossible. It is for severe pregnancy sickness—including hyperemesis gravidarum (HG)—whether or not you have a diagnosis.
The waitlist is open
Waitlist & contact: sanctuarysupportok@gmail.com
For the partner or caregiver holding everything together
You may suddenly be carrying work, children, meals, laundry, errands, appointments, and the worry of watching someone you love suffer. That strain is real. This proposed service would be designed to relieve you, too—not only the mom who is sick—so you can spend less energy keeping every household plate spinning and more time being her partner.
How we would be in your home
The heart of the proposed service would be not only what gets done, but how it gets done: quietly, compassionately, and with an understanding of how severe pregnancy sickness can make ordinary sights, sounds, smells, and conversation unbearable.
Helpers will use quiet voices, move gently, and avoid loud sounds or disruptive tasks unless the family says they are tolerable.
Helpers will arrive without perfume or fragrance and will not introduce scented cleaning products into the home.
No apology will be needed for the dishes, laundry, or how far things have fallen behind. Helpers will meet the home as it is—with compassion, understanding, and actual help.
Trust, made specific
Every helper will be background-checked before being assigned to a visit.
Every helper will be trained in severe pregnancy sickness, including HG, with practical attention to scent and food triggers, noise sensitivity, exhaustion, compassionate communication, service boundaries, and when to escalate a concern. Trained in the illness itself — including the hardest rule: no unsolicited advice, no 'have you tried…?'
Helpers will be expected to work independently, minimize questions and interruptions, and let mom truly rest rather than making her supervise the help.
The work that keeps home life going
Comfort care comes first: protecting her rest, reducing triggers, and keeping essentials within reach. Laundry, dishes, meals, errands, and help with children are the practical work behind that promise. This isn't a cleaning service — it's one person who tends your home and looks after you.
A cool cloth on your forehead, fanning your face, brushing your hair, soothing touch such as a back rub — small comfort measures for the days you can't get up. Always opt-in, agreed in advance. Your rest area kept ready: emesis bags stocked, water and snacks within reach, room reset. The care a mom gives a sick child — for the mother who needs mothering. Excluding hands-on assistance with self-care such as bathing, toileting, lifting, and medical tasks.
Wash, dry, fold, change sheets, and reset the room—without asking you to manage every step.
Clear the sink, wipe surfaces, take out trash, and handle the small tasks that pile up fast.
Prepare tolerated basics and work carefully around personal smell and food triggers you identify.
Pick up the things your household needs, so a partner or family member does not have to leave you alone.
An extra set of hands with children while a parent is home: play, meals, school routines, bedtime. Not standalone babysitting.
Every helper would be trained to understand severe pregnancy sickness, including HG—to listen, reduce triggers, move gently through the home, and take the illness seriously.
What a visit is meant to feel like
This is more than a housekeeper arriving with a generic checklist. The proposed service is practical home-life support built around the realities of severe pregnancy sickness, including hyperemesis gravidarum (HG): exhaustion, sudden changes, scent sensitivity, and very limited capacity.
No scented products, noisy vacuum, food prep, or room entry without checking what is tolerable that day.
The goal is to reduce mental load—not make you supervise someone while you are ill.
When home life is steadier, partners and children carry less disruption, worry, and stress.
Household and family assistance only. Bathing, toileting, lifting or moving you, and medical tasks stay with clinical professionals and chosen caregivers.
Three services, one visit
Measured only against a house cleaner’s rate, $220 will always look like too much. But you’re not buying four hours of cleaning. You’re buying four hours of someone who does the right job at the right moment — the dishes when the dishes are the crisis, an extra pair of hands when the kids need one, a quiet presence when that’s what the afternoon calls for.
She’s not doing three full-time jobs at once — she’s doing the right job at the right moment. That’s something three separate hires can’t do at any price.
And there’s no rate sheet for “mothering the mother” — the cool cloth, the quiet presence, the guilt dissolving.
Already have help?
Sanctuary isn’t a third staffer — it’s the thing neither of your other two does, for the week everything falls apart.
Maybe your cleaner does the dishes. Maybe your nanny tidies up after the kids. Fair — good help is flexible.
But nobody on your staff was hired to take care of you — the mother curled on the couch while the house moves without her. The quiet presence, the cool cloth, someone who says “I’ve got this, you rest.” That’s not in anyone’s job description. It’s the whole of ours.
And this isn’t a standing appointment competing with your staff. It’s episodic — the flare week, the bug that takes down the house, the hard stretch. One person, one visit, the right job at the right moment.
Your staff keeps the household running. We take care of the mother.
Clear from the start
The proposed pilot would have a firm service boundary so families always know what a helper can—and cannot—do.
For the people asking “What can I do?”
Know a mom who’s drowning? Gift her a 4-hour visit ($220). Scheduled with her, never a surprise — it’s the thing she actually needs.
The question that matters
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Questions families may have
No. This page is testing interest in a possible Tulsa-area pilot. It is not accepting bookings, payment, or personal medical information.
That is central to the concept. Helpers would be trained to understand severe pregnancy sickness, including hyperemesis gravidarum (HG). Training would cover common triggers, compassionate communication, household safety, and a strict “observe and escalate—never diagnose or advise” boundary.
That is part of the proposed model. The person receiving support would still need to agree to the visit and set the household preferences.
Four hours is long enough to complete meaningful household work without turning the visit into another thing the family has to coordinate.
No. The service would provide non-medical household and family assistance only. A client would continue working with their own medical team and caregivers.